A marriage talk of Life

My sister is getting married soon. I feel very happy for her. It's not easy to find someone you love and be with the person forever. I will be attending her wedding in Kuala Lumpur, Perak(Kembar) 6/6, Selangor(PJ), Sabah(Sandakan)12/6.

Life, itself, is much more complicated. I have seen young couples, getting married at a very young age and with no plans. I also have seen my friends' families broke up because of adultery, cheating or financial incapabilities. I have seen friends who were forced to get married because of accidental pregnancy. I also have seen a strong relationship in marriage. All in all, the reasons of getting married can be very different. I think most marriages usually happen due to fulfillment, fulfillment of family's desire or legacy. For others, they think marriage is just part of life. Some people think marriage is being together and not being lonely when you get old. For others, getting married is having children, children that will grow up someday and take care of their parents. Even worst, some women want to get married because of status. A status to show that they are being loved and being taken care of. In other words, a security or a financial protection. Marriages also allow a legal protection and economic stability to both parties. Some countries provide unionized benefits to married couples with several reasons: child benefits and lower tax.
I am sure there are more freaky reasons of getting married. Some people get married because of migration, money, work, sex and etc. Fake marriages do happen in countries like USA, Canada, Australia and many more. People seek fake marriages so that they can have citizenship of another country, seeking a better future in a new place. Marriage also means financial stability. It's better to have 2 than 1 to play the game of life. It's better to have 2 to own a house, paying off the debts. In other words, getting married is also seen as a way of having mutual benefits. Of course, there are other weird reason of getting married, marriages can be beneficial to the bridegroom's family. In certain inland part of China, bride's maid needs to have sex with bride's groom's family members. In some cultures, marriages with lots of wives means higher status for men. Sometimes, there is no reason to marriage because of blind marriage. It usually happened in the older times.

I think marriage should not be taken lightly. Marriage means commitment, trust, love, care, devotion, financial stability, protection, communication, management and more importantly, life. Marriage must also be seen in a different perspective. Most couples think marriage is being together, leaving everyone behind. To be honest with you, when you marry someone, you also marry with the family of your lover. They all play apart. Families and friends can affect your marriage indirectly or directly in a short or long run. To have a long lasting relationship is not about loving or caring. It's about binding or strengthening your marriage relationship with your friends, families, society. They are always around you. External influences are usually the cause of major break down in marriage. I wish you all the best in finding the true long-lasting marriage.

Are you prepared to get married? Please think carefully. Are you prepared to devote yourself? Even the smartest and richest people suffer relationship problems from marriage and families.

"To get married, you need plans but, to divorce, you just need to sign on papers"